Social media is the free-for-all platform for online mackin’, so setting boundaries with online interactions is necessary. Unfortunately, the lines are sometimes blurred when random online “friends” try cosy up to you through your DMs. Their desperation for your attention comes with a weird sense of entitlement which becomes annoying.
Among the two sexes, ladies usually fall prey to online pestering. Of course, there is nothing wrong with getting attention from a guy as a girl, or vice versa, whether in real life or online. But the problem arises when the attention you’re getting starts making you feel uncomfortable.
Below are a few examples to help you recognise possible uncomfortable situations.
A symp is a gent who will go to great lengths to impress a lady. Although its generally used to describe males, the term is gender-neutral. In most cases, they attempt to catch the heed of their crushes through DMs. The issue with online pursuits is some folks grow up without knowing how and when to pursue a girl properly. Technology makes accessibility to others so easy that premature DM enquiries are sent thoughtlessly. Social etiquette is hardly considered on the platforms either.
Resulting in a lack of consideration for the person on the receiving end. A case in point includes insistent guys who relentlessly pursue girls and bombard them with message upon message. All this, regardless of how the girl responds or even if she shows a lack of interest. Concern rises when you ask them to limit or stop contacting you, but they continue.
Sometimes the best way to deal with a symp is to ghost ’em. Unkind as that may seem, you need to set your limits. The general rule of thumb is to be socially courteous to all but cut all ties when you sense discomfort and threat. Trust your gut. Here are some red flags to look out for in your DMs:
These are only a few examples. Be aware of trickery, as some symps are clever in their tactics, and their gestures may seem innocent. Remember, it’s your responsibility to use social media responsibly. Unfriend, report, block. In contrast, when dealing with in-person symping, get help from adults or law enforcement. You don’t have to entertain nonsense or fall victim to unpleasant behaviour.
Finally, social media is a great place to encounter various people. Nevertheless, be smart, be kind, and conduct yourself wisely. Listen to the I Am Team in this episode to learn how to deal with unwanted attention from guys (or sometimes girls) online.
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