Most people dread being single because it seems to be a thing that requires one to wait endlessly for their person to arrive in their life. Some see it as a bittersweet journey and not one or the other. While few love the freedom that comes with riding solo. There are many views on what being single should mean.
What does singleness look like biblically? In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul speaks about singleness as a fantastic opportunity to live an entirely devoted life to the Lord. In contrast, you would have divided devotion between Him and your spouse in marriage. Marriage is a beautiful gift from God but is more of a worldly ideal than a spiritual one.
Contrary to popular belief, you won’t feel fulfilled once in a relationship. The single season can get lonely, for sure. However, it is still an excellent opportunity for building your identity, figuring out who God created you to be and strengthening your character in alignment with His good will for your life. You learn how to find joy in the Lord when you allow yourself to grow one-on-one with Him. You are more likely to bring your troubles to Him before running off to your boyfriend/girlfriend, who, to be frank, may also be battling to live righteously.
Singleness prepares you to be whole so that by the time you are ready to be in a relationship, you won’t need another person to make you happy or enjoy your life because having God in your life is enough.
It is pointless to exist in wishful thinking and to cause yourself to wait anxiously. On the contrary, singleness gives you valuable time to invest in your passions and purposes so that you can discover and live fully in your calling.
It is important to know why you want to get married and be willing to prepare for it. Be intentional with working on your healing and self-introspection, and invest time developing yourself to add value to the person you desire to be in a relationship with. Ask yourself questions that are uncomfortable but will encourage you to better yourself – for you first and then to be the right person for the person you’re looking for. Make sense?
Tune in to hear Maryke and Almay dig deep into the nitty gritties of the benefits of making time for self-improvement during your singleness season. You can also listen to our podcasts on iono.fm.
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