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What you need to know about love-bombing

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Love-bombing is a manipulative tactic used to overwhelm a person with affection and attention, which often occurs at the beginning of a relationship or after a person has done something that might jeopardise a relationship. The opposite would be ghosting, abruptly cutting off all communication and contact with anyone previously given regular and exclusive attention or treatment.

These buzzwords occupy trend lists and group chats because the acts have become prevalent, and more people are either speaking out about it or looking for ways to navigate it all. Love-bombing often begins with excessive displays of affection, admiration, and attention. The love bomber may shower you with loving words, actions, and behaviour to create an intense emotional connection. Contrary to what it may look like, love-bombing isn’t sincere and is, unfortunately, temporary.

Read: The challenges of romantic relationships

Love bombing is considered unhealthy by many relationship experts because it makes it harder for the other person to maintain their boundaries. According to psychoanalyst Babita Spinelli, L.P., the goal of a love bombing is to make the recipient feel indebted to or dependent on the love bomber.

Love-bombing signs

  • Being showered with over-the-top gestures.
  • Being told exactly what you want to hear.
  • Terms like “soulmate” are said to you a lot.
  • Being pushed for commitment early in the relationship.
  • They get upset with boundaries.
  • They’re overly needy and use this as a tool to isolate you.
  • There’s lots of PDA, both physically and digitally.
  • You feel like you have to tread lightly.

If you know or suspect you’re being love-bombed, it’s essential to set clear and healthy boundaries. This means speaking out at the onset, Sharing with someone you trust, and being willing to walk away from the relationship if your boundaries are ignored.

Should you need to talk to someone, please get in touch with our Free Counselling helpline.

Written by Kabelo Milton.

The views expressed herein are those of the writer and not I Am Youth.

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