2025 is drawing to a close, and some of us will most probably make New Year’s resolutions, deciding who and what stays behind in 2025 and who and what makes it to the new year.
One of the places that usually goes through the culling process is our relationships – platonic and otherwise. Friendships are such a huge part of our lives, especially when we’re figuring out who we are and what we want. Doing a friendship audit isn’t about cutting people off impulsively; it’s about reflecting on the quality of those connections.
Are your friends empowering you to be your best self, or are they unintentionally (or sometimes intentionally) keeping you stuck in negative patterns?
“Not every friendship is meant for every season—but every season invites honest reflection.”
Think about the people who genuinely celebrated your wins, stood by you during tough times, and motivated you to chase your dreams or walk closer to Jesus. These friends listen without judgment, provide honest feedback, and inspire you to grow. They’re the ones who boost your confidence and create a positive environment where you can thrive.
On the other hand, some friendships might have felt more like a weight than a wing. Maybe those friends were overly critical, unsupportive, or even toxic — bringing negativity or drama into your life. Sometimes, people in our circle don’t realize the impact they have, but their attitudes or behaviours can limit our growth or joy.
Think about how you felt after spending time with each friend. Energised or drained?
Sometimes, people don’t realise how their actions affect us. Honest conversations can lead to positive change.
It’s okay to protect your mental and emotional space.
Recognise the friends who are there for your journey and keep those bonds strong.
Have listened to this podcast to further explore how a friendship audit can be a useful tool in your life. After all, the people you surround yourself with can make all the difference in the path you walk.
Written by Kabelo Milton.
The views expressed herein are those of the writer and not I Am Youth.
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