How to talk to your person about difficult things

With communication being one of the key ingredients to a successful relationship, it’s necessary to break down the fear and make room for hard questions. There are many questions girls are too afraid to ask guys because they’re even more afraid of how the guy will react. The fear of expressing curiosity makes communication difficult in a relationship.

Furthermore, it’s important to understand how people are brought up and why that affects their responses to questions.

Being in tune with your feelings

For anyone to express their feelings, they need to be in tune with them. Generally, girls are brought up to be more in tune with their emotions and feelings. Hence, when you ask a girl how she feels, she could write you a speech while the guy gives a simple “I’m all right” full stop. From a young age, most boys are taught to maintain a tough appearance and not show weakness. Unfortunately, the weakness has been linked to their vulnerable emotions. Thus, the tendency to keep up the macho persona as a defence mechanism makes it difficult to receive questions from girls.

The difference between asking questions and questioning 

There is a big difference between asking questions and questioning someone. Gents are generally private people and find it difficult to express their feelings, mostly because of how they were raised. Therefore, it is necessary to ask your guy questions in a way that does not attack his character.

Additionally, don’t question a guy, as that can feel like they’re being interrogated, which may cause him to shut you out. It’s like the warning signs go up, and its safer to avoid what threatens his security. Remember that you treat people how you’d like them to treat you, so ensure you are offered the same grace you extend.

Listen to Questions that girls are too afraid to ask guys

A safe space 

Finally, when we want to ask questions, we need to give assurance that we’re in a safe space. To guys, making time for personal Q&A seems an onerous task. Therefore, you want to establish a sense of trust. Of course, this means you need to be aware not to use his willingness to be vulnerable with you against him at a later stage. In addition, don’t be judgemental – keep an open mind when discussing things with him. At the end of the day, communication forms part of bonding and learning how to support one another better. So, cultivating safe spaces to share and express views is essential to that process.

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